"I have to cook my husband dinner...I have to cook my kids dinner....I have to make bottles....I have to go to my son's soccer game...I have to go to my daughter's Girl scout meeting.....I have to help do homework...I have to go to a PTA meeting....I have to give baths....I have to comb hair..."

Does this sound familiar to you? It sounds too close to home for me. I'm an at home mother and wife and it is easy to put the children first. Children are very demanding and needy. I told myself that I would never put my kids before my husband, but it happened before I even realized it. I'm now trying to change the situation because my husband has needs as well as I do.

I miss my husband and our quality time. I'm reclaiming my husband and I would advise you other mothers to do the same.

I know a couple who who makes sure they keep their relationship alive. they have a balance between themselves and their children. Tony and Toya English make sure they take time out for each other. the have rendevous at hotels to take time for themselves. they give each other cards, love notes andother things to show affection towards each other. They also spend quality time with their two boys. Everything balances out. I like that because when everyone is satisfied, everyone is happy and I like happy people.

Recently, I took my husband to the Embassy Suites hotel for his birthday. We had the best time we have had in a while. It felt like when we first met. We were all alone without the children. It was peaceful and fun. We relaxed, enjoyed each others company and talked without interruption. It was a wonderful experience. I wish I had taken him a long time ago. The only thing I can say is don't wait to take time with your husband on the holidays or a special occasion, but take him whenever there is quality time to be spent.

It doesn't have to be a hotel because sometimes money is an issue. That's when creativity comes in! Fix your home up and let your mind take over. Send your kids off to their grandmother's home or whoever is your reliable sitter. Show your husband a night to remember.

Here are some ways to keep your husband from being off of the backburner:

-Take hime out to a romantic dinner during the week without the children (your treat).
-Plan to get away at least once a month (you do the planning).
-Write love letters.
-Fix his favorite dessert and eat it after the children have gone to bed.
-Always take a genuine interest in something your husband loves to do.

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